For over fifteen years, I have helped many couples to improve their relationships and responded to their problems and difficulties to bring them closer together again. At some time in their life couple relationships can enter a phase of conflict, misunderstandings, or stress. Expectations are often unrealistic and much of the satisfaction or dissatisfaction in people’s relationships depend on the expectations brought into a relationship. Often people don’t realise that there is a problem until it seems to appear that it might be too late.
In my practice I experience that couples not always realise that sexual issues often are the main problem for their unhappiness. We are all taught reading, writing and mathematics at school but very few people have received relationship advice or proper sex education. Couples often remember the early days in their relationship when they had sex all the time, it just happened, it was exciting and fun, they couldn’t keep their hands of each other. This phase of a relationship is known as ‘Limerence’ but after some time it wears off, sex will become less frequent and less spontaneous. The focus is more on day-to-day routine; things gradually change, and they wonder where that beautiful romance has gone.
After being together for some time couples may encounter a mismatch in sex drives, one partner wants sex more often than the other. This ‘desire discrepancy’ is not abnormal but this conflict can end up having a very negative effect on the relationship.
Another issue is discovering your partner has had an affair. Experiencing infidelity in a relationship can be hurtful and damaging, but getting a divorce is not the answer, especially when children are involved – counselling is the best solution.
I like to work with my clients on restoring the intimacy in their relationship, highlight the misunderstanding in communicating, offer a new perspective, give advice and teach strategies on how to achieve better goals.
You are welcome to contact me on 0411 131 619 and have a chat before making an appointment.